Modern American Manners
Dining Etiquette for Hosts and Guests
By Fred Mayo and Michael Gold
This practical and humorous guide helps readers learn appropriate manners so they can enjoy the pleasures of good food, good drink, and good company without worrying about what behavior is proper. Chapters cover how to be a good host, how to be a good guest, and how to behave at business events, cocktail parties, formal dinners, and restaurants. There is also a unique chapter discussing pet peeves and how to handle them with grace, civility, and appropriate manners.
What’s the proper way to hold a wine glass? What’s an appropriate gift to bring a host—and what shouldn’t you bring? How should you correctly introduce guests to each other? If you’re the host, how do you determine who should sit next to whom? What should you do if you don’t want to drink alcohol at a cocktail party? What is appropriate cell phone usage at a business dinner? Here are easy-to-implement answers to these and many other important etiquette questions.
Lavishly illustrated with memorable full-color photographs that highlight both good and bad table manners, Modern American Manners is full of friendly advice for business professionals, college students entering the workplace, and anyone needing a refresher course or an introduction to proper behavior.
Fred Mayo recently retired as Clinical Professor of Hospitality and Tourism Management at New York University. He has been a college professor, administrator, trainer, and small business owner. He currently teaches etiquette and manners courses. He loves to entertain and make each dinner party special. He has an MBA, a PhD, and certifications in hospitality. He lives in New Paltz, New York.
Michael Gold‘s photographs have appeared in the New York Times, Fortune, Esquire, and more. He lives in New Paltz, New York.
“Fabulous … a sensible, simple, concise, and fun approach.”
—Kevin Zraly, James Beard Lifetime Achievement Award winner
“The essentials of contemporary manners … all illustrated with Michael’s spot on, often humorous, photographs.”
—Melanie Young, host of The Connected Table LIVE!
“Clearly written and comprehensive … belongs in the hands of everyone who would have the world think well of them.”
—Darrin Siegfried, president emeritus, Sommelier Society of America
“A useful guide to navigating the often confusing—and always evolving—world of manners at today’s dinner table. Among many things, it is a quiet plea to acknowledge civility at a time when we apparently need it most.”
—James Oseland, former editor-in-chief of Saveur magazine and judge on Top Chef Masters